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You sometime asked yourself a question: why one person has the gift to attract to himself people, to make on them good impression, and another, so attractive and successful, with this magnetic gift is not allocated? Often such happens because of subconsciously sent hostility signals.
"The big three" of friendliness signals
So, there is a big three of signals of friendliness. If you use them, people around almost with guarantee "consider" you as person attractive and friendly. So, meet the big three: it is game by eyebrows, a ducking and a smile (and, sincere smile is important!)
Game by eyebrows
Game by eyebrows is means to move with them as got. It means, simply instantly to throw up them for the one sixth second. The brain of the person is arranged quite so: he distinguishes an easy vskidyvaniye of eyebrows as a signal which shows that the person is adjusted very much even friendly. Our brain distinguishes this signal at distance about one and a half meters.
When you send this signal to the stranger, you as if speak to it: "I am adjusted positively. You can not be afraid of me, I do not pose any threat". Almost all people do not realize it and do this gesture unconsciously, it is simple on the machine gun.
You can conduct research and look that occurs when two persons who are each other pleasant meet. You will notice that they at a meeting involuntarily throw up eyebrows.
If you want to be pleasant to the person which to be from you further, than on half-meter, anything terrible. This signal can be given in a long distance. For example, if you are at a party in the big room and want to be pleasant to someone on other end of the hall, send to this person a signal. If in reply you receive the same signal, continuation of acquaintance is possible. If reciprocal signal does not follow, it speaks about lack of interest.
The ducking to the right or to the left is regarded as the gesture which is not posing threats. By the way, want to know why so occurs? Everything is very simple if to incline the head to the right or to the left, we automatically open one of the carotids located on the right or at the left.
And carotids, as we know, one of the most important elements of blood system. The rupture of a carotid within several minutes leads to death.
However, inclining the head, we at the nonverbal level declare to the person that we do not expect from it anything terrible. That is we declare that we are not afraid that it will do us harm. Notice how people who feel threat, mechanically pull in the head in shoulders. This gesture helps us to close carotids.
So, to open a neck — means, to give a friendly signal.
The people bowing at communication on one side seem each other much more attractively and credible. If the man approaches the woman, having slightly inclined the head in one of the party, the woman almost for certain will decide that he more interesting, than is actually. Men are arranged also: at the subconscious level they consider the women bowing aside, more attractive.
Smile - a powerful signal of friendliness. The smiling face seems more attractive, nice, less haughty. The smile means confidence, content and enthusiasm and, the most important, testifies to recognition of equality with the interlocutor. Besides, the smile helps our organism to develop endorphins. And endrorfina in itself do us happier.
Know, what smile is considered sincere? The raised mouth corners, the movement of cheekbones up and emergence of wrinkles round eyes are characteristic for such smile. If a smile insincere, cheekbones thus can remain almost not lifted, and wrinkles round eyes are not formed. By the way, here to you one more council: at right-handed persons the false smile is visible most strongly on the right side of a mouth, and at lefthanders - on left.
So, if you want to be pleasant to people literally at the subconscious level, use these three gestures.
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